The line between selfishness and self-need is extremely thin. Selfishness means putting your own needs before those of others, and the world is filled with selfish individuals. You will have them as friends, coworkers, and relatives.
Keeping friends who are always negative, cynical, and focused on themselves is a great way to make yourself unhappy. These individuals are probably the largest source of social sorrow and repentance. If you keep them with you, it will feel like you're investing in a dead stock: they will never pay off.
The hardest thing about this is that these people are able to make themselves seem nice and likable. Today, I'd like to share with you, based on my more than four decades of experience, a few tips on how to identify a self-centered friend before you become hurt or disappointed.
A good way to identify a self-centered friend is to observe how they handle flavours. When you curtsy, they don't make a big deal out of it and never offer a sincere THANK YOU. They will act as if it were of no consequence to them.
Another intriguing characteristic of these friends is that they can cancel plans with you at will, provide copious justifications, and feel little need to apologise. When you propose plans, they will carefully compare them to alternative potential social plans they can implement, and then decide whether or not they are available. And if you believe they will include you in their alternative plans, you are mistaken.
Selfish individuals view social gatherings as opportunities to obtain something: a favorable contact, a job opening, an appealing date opportunity, etc.
These types of characters constantly discuss their other friends and acquaintances. You can be friends with these individuals for a long time, but you will never be introduced to these "friends." This is primarily due to the fact that these types of people have a large number of superficial relationships and few genuine ones. You will notice that they barely know the individuals they constantly discuss.
Selfish friends have no concept of generosity. Their conception of relationships and connections is akin to a turnover: if they give you a portion, their share will be reduced. Obviously, this is incorrect, as the more you share your network, the larger it becomes.
Selfish people use a very interesting tactic, which is typically insensible, to keep you in doubt about your value as a friend. They will never make you feel confident in your own abilities, as if you must always give or do more. They will give you indirect rejections in small doses to keep you around and to encourage you to seek their approval.
Keeping friends who are always negative, cynical, and focused on themselves is a great way to make yourself unhappy. These individuals are probably the largest source of social sorrow and repentance. If you keep them with you, it will feel like you're investing in a dead stock: they will never pay off.
The hardest thing about this is that these people are able to make themselves seem nice and likable. Today, I'd like to share with you, based on my more than four decades of experience, a few tips on how to identify a self-centered friend before you become hurt or disappointed.
A good way to identify a self-centered friend is to observe how they handle flavours. When you curtsy, they don't make a big deal out of it and never offer a sincere THANK YOU. They will act as if it were of no consequence to them.
Another intriguing characteristic of these friends is that they can cancel plans with you at will, provide copious justifications, and feel little need to apologise. When you propose plans, they will carefully compare them to alternative potential social plans they can implement, and then decide whether or not they are available. And if you believe they will include you in their alternative plans, you are mistaken.
Selfish individuals view social gatherings as opportunities to obtain something: a favorable contact, a job opening, an appealing date opportunity, etc.
These types of characters constantly discuss their other friends and acquaintances. You can be friends with these individuals for a long time, but you will never be introduced to these "friends." This is primarily due to the fact that these types of people have a large number of superficial relationships and few genuine ones. You will notice that they barely know the individuals they constantly discuss.
Selfish friends have no concept of generosity. Their conception of relationships and connections is akin to a turnover: if they give you a portion, their share will be reduced. Obviously, this is incorrect, as the more you share your network, the larger it becomes.
Selfish people use a very interesting tactic, which is typically insensible, to keep you in doubt about your value as a friend. They will never make you feel confident in your own abilities, as if you must always give or do more. They will give you indirect rejections in small doses to keep you around and to encourage you to seek their approval.
