Everyone experiences anger and frustration at some point, and that is perfectly normal. If we delve deep into our hearts, we will discover that we are not frustrated by circumstances, occurrences, or experiences. We become frustrated due to our perspective, attitude, or beliefs.
Most of the time, we don't realise how much we annoy ourselves when we give in to unreasonable expectations, demands, and commands.
For instance, almost every day we're all stuck in traffic, which enrages us. However, you're erroneously under the impression that this is a rare occurrence. But we always anticipate that it will not occur to us. The cause of our discontent is the word "should."
I will provide an illustration here. I advise, "Read this book on relationships; you may not gain anything from it, but give it a shot." So you attempt it, but it fails. You are never frustrated.
In the identical circumstance, I assert, "This always works." It flops. Now you are irritated. What altered? Your supposition, your expectation.
You unexpectedly visit a distant acquaintance, but he or she does not invite you to lunch or dinner. You are not particularly bothered. After all, you're not close with that individual.
However, you become angry if you visit your best friend and he/she does not invite you to dinner or lunch. What is distinct? She should have requested dinner because she is my best friend!
However, you become angry if you visit your best friend and he/she does not invite you to dinner or lunch. What is distinct? She should have requested dinner because she is my best friend!
Again, the only change was in your belief.
It's straightforward and simple, but how can we alter our beliefs and expectations? It is also very straightforward and simple.
It really is as simple as an "IDEA."
I have bad luck. Traffic is atrocious.
D is your deduction, which is frequently irrational. This should not be occurring to me.
Effect is the letter E. We become enraged, frustrated, and depressed.
Very rarely can I be changed. However, we can alter D. And this will alter E. So let's introduce the fourth letter.
A claim that contradicts your irrational beliefs. Traffic has occurred in the past. It will occur once again. And I shall endure."
The issue stems from our beliefs. Just eliminate the words 'SHOULD, MUST, AND SHOULD', and you'll eliminate half of your frustrations.
Everyone has the right to wish, want, and desire, but we cannot force the world to conform to our desires. Therein lies the source of frustration and rage, as this divine demand is illogical.
It's straightforward and simple, but how can we alter our beliefs and expectations? It is also very straightforward and simple.
It really is as simple as an "IDEA."
I have bad luck. Traffic is atrocious.
D is your deduction, which is frequently irrational. This should not be occurring to me.
Effect is the letter E. We become enraged, frustrated, and depressed.
Very rarely can I be changed. However, we can alter D. And this will alter E. So let's introduce the fourth letter.
A claim that contradicts your irrational beliefs. Traffic has occurred in the past. It will occur once again. And I shall endure."
The issue stems from our beliefs. Just eliminate the words 'SHOULD, MUST, AND SHOULD', and you'll eliminate half of your frustrations.
Everyone has the right to wish, want, and desire, but we cannot force the world to conform to our desires. Therein lies the source of frustration and rage, as this divine demand is illogical.
