The course of true love never did run smooth

Much has been said about love and the perfect relationship, but it is terrible that we all fall in love or join partnerships only to discover that we are unable to maintain them. "The path of true love is never smooth," William Shakespeare famously observed. However, the bulk of us are unaware of this.

In 2015, 48,517 divorces were granted in Australia. The divorce rate is over 45%, which means that almost half of all marriages end in divorce. 

On my recent wedding anniversary, I shared a picture of my husband and me with a loving remark on Facebook. I got a lot of likes, comments, and messages. Some of them remarked things like, "Lovely couple," "you're both lucky to have each other," and "you have a loving husband." "How do I find the right person for a happy marriage?" a couple of them asked. 

Well… The secret to a happy relationship is not to locate the perfect mate, but to learn to appreciate the one you have. Every partnership goes through a revolution... You fall in love with your lover at the start of your relationship. You look forward to their phone calls, want their touch, and admire their eccentricities.

It was never difficult to fall in love with anybody. In actuality, it was a completely unexpected and impetuous encounter. Nothing was needed of anybody. This is why we call falling in love "falling." Love is a pure, uncontrolled feeling that happens without you knowing how, when, or why.

A partnership, like life, is a full cycle. The pleasure of love diminishes over a length of time in a relationship or togetherness, or after a few months or years. Every relationship goes through an unpolished cycle. Slowly but steadily, your partner's phone calls (if you get them) become bothersome, his/her touch no longer feels as nice as it once did, and the same traits that made you weak in the knees now irritate you. The appearance of this phase varies from relationship to relationship; there is frequently a dramatic difference between the first stage when the pair was in love and the later period, which is sometimes lifeless or even irritated.

At this point, you may be wondering, "Is this person right for me?" And when you explain the pleasure of your previous love with your spouse, you may begin to want for a similar experience with someone else. This is the moment when relationships begin to deteriorate and disintegrate.

People begin to blame their relationships for their sorrow and seek fulfilment elsewhere. Illicit sexual gratification may take several forms, the most common of which is adultery. However, individuals might become workaholics, take up a hobby, have regular night outs, watch too much television, have pets, or become abusive. 

The issue does not exist outside of your relationship; rather, it resides inside it. I'm not saying you couldn't fall in love with someone else; you might, and you'd feel better for it. You would, however, ultimately find yourself in the same situation. Preserving love is not a passive or easy task. To attain that, one must strive day and night. Yes, it takes time, several efforts, and internal determination to succeed. Above all, it desires COMPREHENSION. To make things function and avoid mistakes, one must understand what to do.

Love is NOT a puzzle. Certain actions may be taken. (with or without a partner). Remember that partnerships are controlled by law. The conclusion is foreseeable if you learn how to apply this law to your relationship.